Apology Accepted, Access Denied. Surround yourself with positive people who value what you bring to the table, your mindset is always at risk.
Angela Jean
After a falling out with someone in your life, you need to reflect in order to grow and gain knowledge about yourself. Keep a positive mindset. Every argument is a stepping stone if you use the data properly. Ask yourself:
In what way does this situation test you? Evaluate the hurtful words, the ones that triggered you into defense mode and see if you can channel them into productive action. Question why the words hurt you and what you can do about it.
For instance, if someone said, "You’re an angry person," and you allow their judgement to be true, you might feel...angry! However, if you take action, such as learning to not be reactive and how to relax when triggered, strengthening your mindset about yourself, you can prevent those words from hurting you ever again.
Make your own opinion your priority. Your confidence is always teetering on a ledge when you allow others to dictate how you feel about yourself. Stop placing so much weight on what others think about you, and realize most people are projecting their own limiting beliefs onto you. Your own opinion should be the most important.
For example, if someone says, "You’ll never amount to anything," but you don’t truly believe that, remind yourself of what you think. You might say to yourself, "That’s not true. I believe I am destined for a great life." Use their words as energy to propel your life forward and prove them wrong.
Pay attention to when you find yourself agreeing with people when you don't agree. Maintaining your own thoughts is imperative for a positive mindset. Don't follow the crowd, they are lost.
Purging on paper is my go-to strategy. Writing down your thoughts can bring clarity to what’s happening in your inner world. Plus, when you write out hurtful comments, you stop them from weighing you down. Start a journaling habit in which you write for a few minutes each day. After a week or so has passed, look back at what you wrote. You will be amazed at how quickly your mindset will shift and you no longer have the emotions that were there that day.
I have looked back at some of my journals and thanked God that I did not send them in a text message. I always draft my thoughts and step away for a few days. We can think some crazy things when heated and not thinking logically.
Why do we think such crazy thoughts you ask? I will tell you. When we are heated, we think from the primitive part of our brain. What is that, you ask? I will tell you.
It is the base of the brain that holds all of our traumas and triggers, which is why when we react, we are reacting from a trauma or trigger response. The filter of the past is being put on the present situation. When you take a moment to breathe and let the information track up the base of the brain and to the logical part of the brain, it usually has a more rational response. That is why it is imperative that you need to take a deep breath, draft a "f*ck you" journal note if needed, and wait. Waiting will save you from saying things you don't mean, overreacting, sabatoging, representing yourself in a way that does not serve your true mindset or your higher self.
Conclusion
Maintaining personal power is done by reflecting, learning, and not allowing everyone to have an all access pass to your energy & life. Moving forward your mindset mantra "Apology Accepted, Access Denied."
If we are all responsible for the energy we bring into the world, we can begin to create lasting change.
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